Tuesday, February 27, 2007

The important thing is to appreciate the good qualities and understand the bad qualities by treating others with sympathy and trying to see life from their perspective.

Monday, February 26, 2007

Innocence or experienced?

When i think about little kids, innocence and purity come into my mind. In a more straightforward way to put it; naive.

You see little kids, they don't know that they shouldn't play with fire. They don't know they shouldn't touch the iron. They don't know so many things.

Because they are inexperienced.

They have never experienced the consequences of all the above actions. Therefore such feelings are raw and fresh for them. They want to experience it.

When i was a kid, i knew nothing about pain. I just knew how to have fun. I wanted to play all the things that adults wouldn't allow. Because that's what we are best at: rebellion.
"You are not supposed to play this" I will play it. "You are supposed to do your work" I will not do.

Then, people said there are these many doors to our heart. These doors lead to a new emotion, to a new feeling. Each individual door is wide open when we are an infant.
Year after year, as the more we go through, the more experiences we have, the more doors will close each time. We get used to the feelings that we don't find them fresh anymore, therefore these doors start shutting themselves. We no longer get the same adrenaline rush as the very first experience we had.

When we get older, we know what the dangers of various activities are because we have experienced it before. Our brain stores information that this particular action of doing something will lead to an emotion or a feeling.
Put it this way, if it was a good feeling, our mind will connect it with positive feelings. Say, we managed to top the class. Our brain subconsciously stores the feelings and whenever we want to feel happy, we think of those thoughts.
Then again, if it was a bad feeling, it will be connected to negative feelings as well. That's where our sub-conscious self will slowly back away from it. Thus the doors of our heart close.

If someone was hurt before emotionally, wouldn't that person be afraid of it and not dare to open again?
It's a pity then. Once these doors close, we never give them new chances nor new hopes. We become insensitive and numb from these feelings. Slowly... we miss opportunities that only happen once.
We will never find the same friends back, never the same lover, never the same family, never the same things we once owned.
We want to be experienced, yet we yearn for the innocence of a child. It's a difficult thing to let both happen hand in hand. Experiencing while not closing the doors of our heart....

It takes courage and more courage to do so.

Fine print:
"Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness"
If anyone caught The Pursuit of Happyness yet, perhaps it'll make more sense. It was said in the movie...
why wasn't it called just happiness? Why
the pursuit of happiness?
because we are always pursuing happiness... but more often than not, we do not get happiness. we are always just in the process of pursuing it....
it's disheartening, ain't it?

Sunday, February 25, 2007

It's not that we can't do...it's not that we don't have the ability to do so either...

It's just, sometimes we are careless about things and allow mistakes to happen.

Else, it's always achievable.

Thursday, February 22, 2007

Twilight's Embrace

Is that what i am going through now...?
Entering a new world.... embracing right into twilight moments.

Growing.. and growth. Signs of happiness.
Different forms of it; appreciation... perhaps in the later years.

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

- http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jacjac

WHAT SIA.... xD

I know it definitely isn't for me... hahaha~

"I Am @ Youth.SG"

A lot of topics have been going on about Singapore's youths.
Being a youth myself as well, i definitely have a lot of thoughts to share.

Youths in Singapore today has evolved to a stage where we are very tech-savvy.
Take a look at the current state, some as young as 11-years-old are already starting their own on-line business, reaping profits from it.

Youths these days are becoming more creative than previous generations because of the advanced technology available in Singapore. Almost every average family would have a set of computer at home.

As much as youths are becoming more 'smart', the downside to it is that we are less hard-working because we have the mentality that since everything comes so easily, there is no need to work hard for it anymore.

We are much less independant as well. There are so many teenagers who have never had a taste of what is a tough life. Yet, we complain that this life is so tough. Ironic.
Teenagers these days are all spoon-fed so much that they do not know the importance of thinking for their future, much less planning.

We depend on our parents, our teachers, our lecturers, and all of the people around us to teach us, to guide us, to lead us through all the way. That is not wrong, actually. But over-dependancy will result in one not being able to think for ourselves.

Eventually, our natural human conscience will question.

"What exactly do i want in life?"

"Am i going to continue this mundane life of running in this rat race just to survive?"

All of us will somehow subconsciously or consciously have these thoughts.

However, having this thought is not enough.

One who takes action and think about this question; who faces this question, will eventually find the key to what one exactly desires.
Yet, one who fears and avoids this question; have doubts and fears about the risks if they take a different path from the current one, will not go far.

It's always never too early to start planning for our future.

The older generations have qualms about the younger generation not being able to strive in this society. But who is to answer?
When we stereotype youths these days and label them as hopeless, who were the ones who brought us up to be like that?

Many will say it's their parents who pampered them. I don't deny. Which parent don't want the best for their kid?
Yet, the more parents want their kid to do well in life, the more they will spoon-feed them. Then the more kids will not learn how to stand on their own. Eventually growing up, not knowing how to fend for themselves.

Youths these days are not hopeless. There are so many uncovered talents. However, parents always choose not to see their other talents and focus too much on academic studies. I always believe in letting your own kid shine in his/her own way. No one is too hopeless for their own good.

Times are getting better, obviously, living conditions will improve as well. Youths will never learn how to appreciate a good life because we have never had a tough life before to truly understand. I guess this is something that everyone, including myself understand.

Enough of ranting, life will go on like it always has been. Singaporean youths; including myself have only ourselves to prove of our self-worth.

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

I've proven myself right of my belief... There's no such thing as love at first sight.

Love is something that grows... something that develops from a tiny seedling... just like a flower.. with time, care, and patience... it blossoms.

Thursday, February 15, 2007

The deepest hurt felt... is not by those inflicted on yourself... it is those around you, who has the deepest impact. Every little action of yours affect greatly on others. It might have minor or no feeling to you... but every ounce of the action is absorbed fully by everyone around.
Who worries the most? Who cares the most? We may discount ourselves of our worries and concerns... but never discount the amount of those who loves you too much.
It may be, that you may feel little effect of it, that is because there are too many loved ones around to share the burden.

We are so blessed... yet we don't always see it.
We live for others... we don't live for ourselves. Every little thing we do... is for others. We go to school, for parent's sake; to repay them for bringing us up, to listen and obey them. We do everything and do to the best of it... so as not to disappoint the people around us. Expectations... hopes... and dreams. They are the ultimate goal of pursuing happiness.

Happiness. Is undefined. It comes in all forms. It's something we feel but not see. We take action but not speak. We want it so much but fail to realise its existence is always around.
It is about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right.
If we don't feel bad, how will we treasure happiness?
If we don't feel good, how will we know what is happiness?
If we don't feel right, how will we feel happiness?

To feel happy, it’s not enough to have fun with your friends, and not feel guilty about yelling all the time, and feel like you’re working in the right job; you also need to feel growth—a sense of learning, of betterment, of advancement, of contributing to the growth of others.

It is neither a virtue, a pleasure, nor this or that, but simply growth. We are happy when we are growing.

-the happiness project

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Dreams within the still of night
On wing of hope takes flight inside me
There upon some distant shore
We want for nothing more
Than what will be...

But what will be
Will always be for granted
Till it remains
Our fear will cease

Granted it shall be
But Life and Death
Where a thin line exists
Has much more than it is...

Truth or untold truth
Remains invisible
Behind hidden words
Voices unspoken
But feelings mutual...

Perceive and perception
What is and what ought not be
How sure are we
The light glows on...

Sunday, February 11, 2007

Looking forward for the week to be over... the stress is overwhelming.
It isn't as fun and thrilling as it might appear to be....

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.

Ambivalence...

Saturday, February 03, 2007

Life is so unpredictable... Just when you thought you've seen it coming, then there's adverse change that was unexpected. Time flies... it seems like yesterday but years have gone by. Living in the past... living in the present... living in the future. The power of the mind...

Thursday, February 01, 2007

Life is really hectic. I still love it though it's kinda tiring me out. I've no time to have some quiet moments to myself recently hence the absence of my presence on my blog these days. I've stopped those deep thoughts because i simply have no time to do so! Oh man!

When i do have time, say in a bus ride, i appear in a daze. The brain shuts out from the outside world and time seems to have stood still for me. Amazing.

I don't have much to complain about, cos' i know i'm gonna miss all these once it's over. I just wanna rejoice for how much i'm slowly changing as days go by.
I thought it'd be nice to thank every one who had been, has been, and will always be part of my life. Be it in the past, present, or in the future...memories...current situations... I'm just like a plant. Without water, without sunlight, without air, i would be just a lifeless plant. You guys: friends, family and loved ones, are my essentials. Every one of us is just like a plant. We all need love, care, time, trust and patience to blossom. Cherish the times and moments.... It's all the little things.


AH... it sucks to fall sick. I wondered if the amount of times i've sneezed today is enough to cover an entire week's of sneezes when i'm a healthy person. Hope i'll feel better tomorrow!~