Monday, May 27, 2013

3 things that 20-somethings ought to know

1. Identity capital - Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an investment in whom you might wanna be next. Now is the time for that internship, the start-up company, whatever it is that you want to head towards. Don't procrastinate. Make it count.

2. Social capital - Best friends are best at giving rides to the airport. But 20-somethings who huddle together with like-minded peers, limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak and where they work. New things seldom come from our inner circle. They come from our weak ties - our friends of friends of friends. Reach out to your weak ties.

3. Pick your family now - The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one and that means being as intentional with your love, as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work and killing time with whoever who happens to be choosing you.

30 is not the new 20. Claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. 
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do, you are deciding your life right now.

Credits

Saturday, May 11, 2013

Where to?

I don't know where to turn to for comfort.
I don't confide.
I'm not a bottle.
I can't tell you.
I just want to feel the calmness to know that it's something that I can do again.


Jups, why share this sad sad song with me, the tears just keep welling up.
爱的委屈,不必澄清。