Dear mommy

Hear and understand me.
Even if you disagree with me, please don't make me wrong.
Acknowledge the greatness within me.
Remember to look for my loving intentions.
Tell me the truth with compassion.

3 things that 20-somethings ought to know

1. Identity capital - Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an investment in whom you might wanna be next. Now is the time for that internship, the start-up company, whatever it is that you want to head towards. Don't procrastinate. Make it count.

2. Social capital - Best friends are best at giving rides to the airport. But 20-somethings who huddle together with like-minded peers, limit who they know, what they know, how they think, how they speak and where they work. New things seldom come from our inner circle. They come from our weak ties - our friends of friends of friends. Reach out to your weak ties.

3. Pick your family now - The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one and that means being as intentional with your love, as you are with work. Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work and killing time with whoever who happens to be choosing you.

30 is not the new 20. Claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. 
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do, you are deciding your life right now.

Credits

Where to?

I don't know where to turn to for comfort.
I don't confide.
I'm not a bottle.
I can't tell you.
I just want to feel the calmness to know that it's something that I can do again.


Jups, why share this sad sad song with me, the tears just keep welling up.
爱的委屈，不必澄清。

On Lifestyles

An excerpt from Arnold Schwarzenegger's Total Recall: My Unbelievably True Life Story

I promised myself that we would never have to use Maria's (at this particular chapter, she was his girlfriend who eventually became his wife) money - neither the money she earned nor any from her family. At that point, I was making $3 million for Predator, and if it did well at the box office, I'd earn $5 million for the next project and $10 million for the next, because we'd been able to nearly double my "ask" with every film.
I didn't know whether or not I'd end up richer than her grandfather Joseph P. Kennedy, but I felt very strongly that we would never have to rely on Shriver (Maria's family) or Kennedy money. What was Maria's was hers. I never asked how much she had. I never asked how much her parents were worth.
I hope that it was as much as they dreamed of having, but I had no interest in it.
I also knew Maria wouldn't want a two-bedroom rental apartment lifestyle. I had to provide her with a lifestyle similar to the way she'd grown up.

Haven't really given much in-depth thought about this topic before, maybe once or twice it has crossed my mind, but reading this excerpt triggered me to question how I should approach this. This is definitely just Arnold's point of view as a man with an Austrian background. What about the culture and context in Singapore? What about the times? That was during the 1960s. Has the progression of time shifted man's thoughts as well? I think the important question lies in this -what about the individuals involved? There is honestly no right or wrong. But there is something that nudges at one's comfort level. Are you being honest with yourself that you are / will be happy with the kind of lifestyle you want to live?

Viral Marketing

These are my 2 proudest moments thus far on internet marketing.

This was during Boulderactive 2012, while I was actively promoting to the climbing community globally. Thinking about this... I think I just upped my own record a few times over with this:

In less than 5 hours, I've reached 8,600+ people, and the numbers are increasing by hundreds by the minutes as I type this. Boy, it feels good to have done something right.