Defined as "the tendency for people to over-emphasize dispositional, or personality-based, explanations for behaviors observed in others while under-emphasizing situational explanations. In other words, people have an unjustified tendency to assume that a person's actions depend on what 'kind' of person that person is rather than on the social and environmental forces influencing the person."
Always cut people slack; always assume that their irritability, or unfriendliness, or absent-mindedness, neither reflects their true nature nor has anything to do with me. In brief, don't take things personally.
-Happiness Project
This can happen most of the times, while like quoted in The Happiness Project:
I assume that the guy in the drugstore is an inconsiderate jerk because he rushed ahead of me to get to the counter, when in fact, he’s very considerate, and he’s rushing to get home with the medicine for his sick girlfriend.
What about the rest of times when we are actually doing something that is not affected by our surroundings but more of our prejudices or impressions that were created before? Is it forgivable?
Having survived without a maid for 2 weeks now, i don't know if i should say i'm doing well without one. When i was younger and without a maid, i always thought to myself "why am i always doing this..." but as i grow older, i've started to assume responsibilities and never felt the same as before. I thought it was the right thing to do, to do my part as a family member living in the household. It's pathetically sad that my brother doesn't feel the same way. Though there's nothing i can do about that, i really wished that he would put in a little more effort in creating more happiness and living in a happy environment.
It really hurts me a lot when i've always try to make the house a home, and i don't get appreciated for my efforts. Times like this, i could just cry myself to sleep, yet only to wake up the next day feeling the pain in my heart fading. Surely, time can heal all wounds.
Sometimes i wonder, does everybody feel that someone whom you are closest to have the highest tendency to inflict such emotional pain...?
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Blogging Research
I am a doctoral student, studying at the Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology at Yeshiva University, Bronx, NY.
I am conducting a research project on the topic of blogging and would like to invite you to participate as a subject in my study. Ferkauf faculty member Dr. Shelly Goldklank is supervising this project. You have been selected for participation in this study as part of a random sample of bloggers.
I would greatly appreciate your assistance in completing a questionnaire regarding your use of your blog, as well as an online survey of your personality traits. Additionally, I ask for demographic information, such as age, gender, etc. After I receive your answers to the questionnaire on your blog usage, I will contact you again to review your responses or to ask new questions that arise from your initial responses. The time to complete the entire survey is about 30-50 minutes. This study has been reviewed and approved by the Committee on Clinical Investigations Institutional Review Board at Albert Einstein College of Medicine of Yeshiva University.
To participate in this research study you must be at least 18 years old. You must also be a blogger who updates your blog at least weekly for a minimum of 3 months. At least one of your blogs must be public. Your participation in the study is voluntary. Your identity will be kept confidential and data referenced in the final results will be stripped of identifying information. Your name and contact information will be kept in a locked box for the duration of the research study and this same contact information will be destroyed six months after completion of the study. The research study will be completed June 2008 at the latest. Within six months after the completion of the study those subjects interested in obtaining the results may receive them at the end of the study, at which time I may retrieve the names and addresses from the locked file.
There are no direct benefits to all participants in the study. Your completion of the on-line survey will indicate that you have read, understood, and agree to the terms of participation in this study as outlined above.
If you are interested in participate in this study, please email me at chrisbelz@gmail.com. I will then email you a link to the online survey, as well as the questionnaire I have designed.
Thank you again for your assistance with the completion of this research project.
Sincerely,
Christopher Belz, M.A.
Doctoral Student
chrisbelz@gmail.com (preferred email)
cbelz@yu.edu (school email)
Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology
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Albert Einstein College of Medicine
Yeshiva University
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