Inner Voice says

To have realistic expectations - Not a pillar of emotional support.

To be prepared for emotional ups and downs - Normal process of coming to terms with the change in life.

To take it slow - Build up a reserve of comfort, trust and pleasantries. Never turn to emotional dependency.

To have patience - Take each day as it comes and dig into this deep reserve of patience to deal with emotional ups and downs. Act as a pillar of emotional support. Give more than receive.

Ultimately, taking care of yourself first will enable you to care for others.

Start loving the real me, caring for me, being happy for me.

Then start giving, and not expecting returns.